The first anniversary ideas and celebrating it after being cheated on for the first time.
It is said that, “the first year is the hardest” in marriage. And for some it could be right, but for other’s we’re lucky enough to go through the first year together smooth sailing.
They say that the first year of marriage is the hardest. For some that may be true, and for others that may be a little tougher to do.
I have been married twice now. The first marriage, my first husband was in the military. I had heard of stories of what could happen overseas with men in the military (no offense to others however). Little did I know for the longest time, my spouse was doing the most right here at home.
I would wake up to nights where my first spouse would leave late at night. We were young getting married, and it was a lot of emotional stress. I changed completely as a person, I never smiled anymore. I was always crying.
We were together for two years, before marrying, then separating after 6 months, and divorcing at month 11. Let’s just say that I was LUCKY to have been saved from an evil human being. We surely didn’t celebrate a first year of marriage at all together.
The beauty about getting beat down is, once you’re at your lowest point of life. There’s nowhere to go but UP! And that’s exactly what happened.
And then 5 years later, I married the man I was definitely meant to be with.
You know how I knew?!
I knew because after we had met through a mutual friend from work, which was a great start! At the time, I was career oriented. I was working at a sales company, I had passed by my husband a few times at work but never got the feeling to advance with him in a more personal setting. It also just wasn’t my style.
That was until he left the company three months after seeing him. I worked for a company that had each individual sign a document for no fraternization with other employees, and doing so would be a cause for termination. I thank my husband for saving me from that misguided career sham.
It had felt as though, the manager was just recruiting college students to believe that selling products door to door would be their way to becoming a millionaire consultant.
The more each person sold for that office, the manager would get a huge percentage back.
In all honesty it felt like a mother manager with children fighting for her love and attention through sales.
And in no way, shape, or form is this to belittle those in sales or anything like that.
It just wasn’t my cup of tea after I had realized the kind of person I was working for, she just wasn’t someone I believed in.
The First Encounter:
I was invited over to a house party with a coworker, my husband now working at another company. Our very first game we played the night we were officially introduced was beer pong. He was sober, and just such an easy going and friendly person to talk to. After drinks that night my attraction to him grew immensely.
The next night we separated and went to a birthday party and met up. We hung out for a bit and decided to hang out the very next day.
The First Date
April 18th: On this day the we decided to both hang out sober, he picked me up from my house at the time. And we sat on the couch for hours just talking and talking and talking. We also watched “Impractical Jokers.” It felt like I met my best friend forever. It was very romantic to just sit there with a friend on the couch. We had a sleepover that night. And next thing I knew, tomorrow was here.
I received a text message about hanging out again. And on that day, I moved in lol. We had talked about getting married days after meeting each other. And what do ya know? We married a year and 10 days to the day we met on April 28th, the following year.
It was blissful!
Our first anniversary together!
For our first anniversary, I woke up to a super duper Mr. Clean home, it was spotless. My husband then asked me to get dressed and got a sitter for the baby, and took us out to dinner together. My husband really isn’t the romance type, but he sure did bring his A-game for our first year.
When your first marriage is nothing but insecurity, lies, and games. It makes the second marriage all the more better to enjoy. You’re just in heaven and nothing can go wrong.
A few tips to celebrating the 1st year together:
Be grateful for each other: Celebrating the 1st anniversary with your second husband after being cheated on is a landmark for the both of you. You proved to yourself that you can love again, and love hard. First and foremost after being cheated on, being grateful to each other is a great reminder that you. Just love and relish in the fact that you are with someone new and it’s a hell of a lot better than the first. I would just tell him as much as you can how grateful you are to be with him.
Do something Simple: Okay so obviously we went out to our favorite restaurant together for our anniversary (I mean I did just push out a newborn 6 weeks prior, so you know full well my body was still healing from being stretched open in ways I’d never experienced). Even if your favorite restaurant is part of the fast food chain. Enjoy food together. “The Way to A Man’s Heart is Through his Stomach” says some.
Buy some new lingerie and dance for your man: Give him an unforgettable show. You can always spice things up with, things like whips, and straps. Lol only if you’re both into that sort of thing or wanting to experiment. You don’t absolutely have to, but it’s ALWAYS fun to get freaky in the bedroom.
Create A Wish Jar: I absolutely love to write letters and sticky notes about how much I love my husband. I leave it in random areas of our house, in his lunch box, and even in places like the bathroom when he gets up to get ready for work.
Throughout the year prior, I watched him every day and wrote one good thing about him that I saw in that day. I wrote it down on a piece of paper then dated it, and put it into a home made jar. Now everyday, he comes home for lunch. He pulls a piece out to read. And absolutely loves it!
Make A World Map: Buy a Map this year and together with tacks you can both chose places you’d like to travel to and make a goal to remove a tack each anniversary year.
Just remember that when celebrating your first year anniversary together after being cheated on. Don’t relive the past. You’re stronger than ever being put through the pain during your first marriage. Don’t take it out on your second marriage. Make new memories together, and don’t compare him to your last. And you’ll have way more happier anniversaries together throughout the years to celebrate.
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Red CarnationsPresent your wife with a lovely stack of not just 1 but 100 Red Carnations as a symbol of your undying love to remember her favorite flower. Surprise her and shower her with flowers that last over 2 weeks time.
Origami Blue - Unique Wooden Wall Clock with virtual 3D effectMaking a snowflake in elementary school is probably the closest that anyone has tried and called it Origami. With this unique clock, it's definitely creative electronic origami.
The Pearl Source NecklaceEvery woman loves a good set of Pearl's, make this year the first year you don't stay Mr. Cheap-O! Instead of dinner with clams, you can give her the Pearl within.
Movie Up "Our Adventure" Book for memoriesIf her favorite movie is Up! with Ellie and Mr. Fredrickson, have a romantic date, arrive home to watch the movie Up! And at the end credits then present her with this memory book to put a cherry on top of your amazing evening with your true love!
Travelon Anti-Theft Classic Messenger BagAnti Theft protection couldn't be more secure in this day and age, protect your woman with this anti theft messenger bag with awesome rated security features. Do what is possible to keep your true love from becoming a victim of theft.
Couples ApparelRemember the Sadie Hawkins days where you matched your date. Well let's go all out and match in adulthood right? Lol Go Team Go!
Superwoman ApronSuperWoman to the rescue in the kitchen! Honor your wife with a true statement of an apron, a Superwoman apron to let her know she is loved and cherished in her realm, the kitchen.
Amazon Best Seller Green Coleman Inflatable Hot TubGive the gift of having a nice night under the stars together for your anniversary in the inflatable and portable hot tub. Spend a romantic night popping champagne together, anywhere in the world in each other's company.
Teeth Whitening KitIf smiling in the past has ever been a self conscience issue or something they are timid about and treatments have been expensive from a dentist in the past, try the AuraGlow if it's something your spouse has been talking to you about.
Yamaha Acoustic Guitar Flamed MaplePlay a melody or create a new song with a brand new Mahogany Yamaha FG850 Acoustic Guitar. Create songs of moments you feel when with each other, and surprise your babe with a personal moment made for just the two of you.
I love you to the moon and back Oil WarmerTouch their spirit and relax your sweethearts body with this lovely gift, I love you to the moon and back is an understatement compared to your love for your babe/beau, with some vibrant waxes this wax warmer can do wonders to the mood.
Polaroid Snap Instant Digital Camera (Black) with ZINK Zero Ink Printing TechnologyIs your spouse the one who takes snaps of your food before you eat it? Post on instagram often? Makes you take more than one shot because you didn't smile or look cute enough? Gift your babe with a Polaroid Instant Snap. Turn moments into Snap, Print, and Share.
RC Quadcopter Drone with HD CameraIf you know your bae has talked about it over and over and over, why not do you both a favor and give him a Drone to try. It's your first anniversary, maybe this was something he wasn't expecting but will be thrilled to try out together.
Sausage and Cheese PackA cry for sausage lovers with the famous crackers and cheese to enjoy together. On anniversary day, save the lunch by sending this package to your loved one at work to enjoy the thought that you cherish them and attempted something new.
Gift Box FoodFood, food, and more food to love together. Spend the day enjoying each other alone on the bed or couch with this basket pulled out to pop some bubbly and enjoy some treats to satisfy your stomach with and energize your loins for a long night together. It's your anniversary.
Deluxe Artist Painting Set with Aluminum and Wood Easels, Paint and AccessoriesA deluxe artist painting set with acrylic paint, oil paint, watercolor paint and a multiplicity of supplies to utilize. Whether your spouse is gifted or just beginning this is the perfect way to get them up and going to starting a passionate hobby.
Wrist Watches Gifts Set for LoversJust as you'll share your lifetime together, share time together with beautiful matching watches as your first year anniversary together. A powerful year filled with timeless memories.
Bottomless wine glassNon slip and non drip way to drink wine from the bottle itself. A great item for both of you to share a toast together on anniversary night, just twist it on the bottle of wine and sip. After you've finished, stick it in the dishwasher for a quick rinse. A very creative and loyal way to share wine.
Bamboo Bathtub Caddy Tray Bathtub RackA safe and stylish way to add luxury and style to your bathroom. Add some bath salts or a bath bomb for relaxation for your spouse and this bamboo caddy tray is great to hold all the essentials needed for a bubble bath
Mini Portable Real Time Personal and Vehicle GPS TrackerYour first year is always the hardest, but for safe measures this tracker.
Custom Pictures on PillowsShow your personality and ability to be different and unique by giving your significant other a fantastic custom made personalized pillow of anything that means something. An ultrasound of your baby, a funny memory to laugh about, or a picture of the both of you on your wedding day.
Anniversary Book HardbackPreserve each other's memories of your love and marriage each and every year with an official Anniversary Memory Book. A documented book of pictures saved from each year with kind words to show each generation of your family how happy you are together.
Antique Handmade Leather Bound Daily Notepad For Men & Women Unlined Paper 7 x 5 InchesThe Moonster handmade leather journal with tree free paper presents this journal as a truly unique handmade antique, it comes handy with a gift box set and luxury metallic pen. This can be given for memories of your lover to pen down all their feelings. And all their thoughts of the first year of marriage with many more to enjoy together.
Nature's D*ck Pics Wall CalendarA hilarious way to show a side of mother nature attached to a good cause. Donations go to prostate cancer when you give "Nature's Dick Pics" to a loved one for a smile.
Mr. Beer Premium Gold Edition Craft Making KitFor the first wedding anniversary gift, create a beer together one that you can name for yourselves and have every anniversary.
Wreck This Journal TrendingYour first anniversary will indefinitely be filled with alot of joyous memories, Wreck This Journal can make those memories something enjoyable to jot down for yourself or your spouse. As seen on TV and trending with this popular diary.
Moon LampJust like the texture of the moon and for moon lovers all around to have at any time of day, in your own home. This is a great first year anniversary gift to have at home, with multi colors to use with just a touch of the remote.
U.S. Divers Admiral Snorkeling SetAn ultimate dream for your first anniversary just in case you live in a dry or old area. You can take your spouse on a cruise together. A wonderful idea could be to wrap this gift up to wait until you arrive on the beach and present it as a delightful surprise. Add a go-pro to your dive and you'll relive it for all the years to come.
Wedding Time CapsuleSuch a lovely and creative item for each other to keep. As your first year of marriage approaches, you can both leave sentimental love filled items in this time capsule to open up at your 5th or 50th anniversary together.
SIlver Plain Waterproof Time CapsuleA sturdy silver time capsule that you can utilize to store your memories safely away for each other. You can select anything that either of you desire. As time goes on, your love grows and so do your valuables. Why not store them away for another year for both of you to look back on? Or for your children and many generations to advance?